It really deconstructs the heterosexual male nerdy guy who thinks he deserves sex (aka the incel), and it's the first television series or film to truly do it and do it well.

Oh, interesting! I hadn't looked at it that way yet. (And I'm not sure Joss Whedon was self-aware enough to consciously do this?) But the show does it really well indeed.

I couldn't make it through a re-watch of Northern Exposure done during the same time period, and struggled with Ally McBeal. But this one works.

Good comparisons, yes! I really loved Northern Exposure at the time, more than Buffy, but you're right.

Murderbot on Apple + - which I'm really enjoying. Alexander Skarsgaard is perfect casting, and I loved the books, but read them long enough ago, that it appears to me at least that it's following the books fairly closely.

I reread the first book last week, and I agree that the show is following it closely. I like it more than I thought I would.